The Atlas

Grow or Die - Identity

Identity is a complicated, convoluted, mixed up bag of stuff we mostly get from those around us -- at least at first. So what happens when you are ready to start examining what you really want it to be, and how that matches what you actually want from life? Join Lawrence and me while we dive into this juicy topic!

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Nurturing our nature

If there is one topic on the planet that fascinates me more than any other, it's the question of how much of who we are is innate (nature) versus cultivated (nurture). As a result, there isn't another topic on which I do more reading and more studying; neurobiology, the mapping of the human brain, cognitive re-programming, brain chemistry and the increasingly large body of information associating genetics with different characteristics is something that I can nerd out on for days.

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Grow or Die - Getting past resistance to change

This week I posed a question: how do we help people get past a resistance to change? A fight against change is central to so many of the toxic things we see around us now, but a basic resistance to it starts with individuals. Our conversation covers everything from Black Lives Matter to the weaponization of Christianity.

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Some Father's Day thanks

As both a Daddy's Girl and the eldest daughter raised by a single father, I am an eternal and somewhat obsessive spectator when it comes to watching father-daughter relationships around me. Over the years, I have noticed that my observations of how father's interact with their children is often a big catalyst for why some of my male friends turn into my favorite people.

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Grow or Die - Boundaries

Very few of us are naturally great at establishing and maintaining boundaries automatically. It usually requires work -- often after we've learned lessons about why NOT holding boundaries creates a problem. So what does that actually look like? This week, Lawrence and I discuss this messy topic.

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Boundaries and Resentment

The problem with always saying yes, is that eventually your plate is really too full to hold anything more. By always saying yes, I'd feel like I was being taken advantage of, and I'd start to get resentful.

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Grow or Die - Accountability

A week into global protesting about unchecked police brutality against people of color, as sparked by the murder of George Floyd, Lawrence and I discuss a core principle that has become a missing element in our social contract that has contributed to our current problem: lack of accountability. But accountability is both a macro and micro issue, and by figuring out how to start holding ourselves and the people in our lives accountable is an important starting point in any social justice effort, particularly as we are seeing in Black Lives Matter.

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I don't know what to say

For me to be at a loss for words is not exactly normal. But that's a bit how I'm feeling right now. And as a rather prototypical extrovert, if there is anything that makes me feel uncomfortable, it's not knowing what to say. My podcasting partner, Lawrence Henderson, always talks about the importance of "getting comfortable with being uncomfortable." I keep reminding myself of that being uncomfortable is part of the point.

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